What is the right balance in the father son relationship? Many men today have issues with their own fathers making it very difficult to be the father they need to be to their sons. Freedom from issues with our own fathers is the place to start. It is hard to raise a son to be free, when things separate us from our own fathers. There is a place to start.

Have you forgiven your own father for his shortcomings? This is sometimes hard to do, but freedom starts here. Many of us have heard the story about pointing the finger. When we point the finger at someone, there are three other fingers pointing back at us. There may be legitimate reasons for our human feelings toward our fathers, but resentment can lead to bitterness. This can spoil you spiritually as well as impact you physically. What is even worse, it will usually have the effect of duplicating this result from generation to generation. But, you can break this cycle. The power in forgiveness sets all parties free if they will receive it. First of all, you must receive forgiveness, recognizing that God forgives you and then pass that understanding along. You receive forgiveness, forgive your own father and you will then be able to pass that understanding along to your sons (and daughters). The "baggage" you have been carrying will become very light and over time you will see the fruit produced in your sons as a result of that decision. In the years to come you will see that the cycle was broken.